So, Want To Ditch Normal?


Many, many times in my life I’ve come up against the feeling of simply not being able to tolerate normal and feeling agitated at the status quo. 
I know you know what I’m talking about 😜

Here’s what I wish I’d learnt earlier:

💛💛 It is OK to feel agitated and a little conflicted even. 

In fact, when you’re a driven big thinker, with a tendency to overanalyse, you need to make friends with the agitation. 
Things will always pop up in your life at the moments you need them and they are always there to show you something. 

I wish I’d identified that sooner in life. 
People you used to know, people you want to know, events that drive you crazy, things you can’t get out of your head. 
>> ALL there to send you a message. 

Now you can get pissed off and try to fight the agitation, or you can get on with the business of learning what you need to learn. 

NORMAL people repress that stuff. They push it down and pretend like life is all some cosmic joke where they just get the cards that they get and have to cope with what they’ve been dealt. 

***** If you want to ditch normal, you get to acknowledge the agitation and move through it with intention.***** 

💛💛 Your truth is reflected in the frustration. 

What has that thing/person/event showed up to teach you? 
Usually it’s got stuff all to do with what they are doing, and is ALL about what YOU get to learn.

When you feel jealous of someone and what they have or how they present, or you admire them, that’s because something about them is calling out to you. 

It’s saying -“Hey, you over there, doing all the normal yawny sort of things. Psssst… there’s still MORE in you. See, they’ve got it somehow - now open up and take a look at yourself”

***** If you want to ditch normal, you get to take another look and what is triggering and frustrating you ***** 

💛💛 Your independence is your strength and your weakness. Know when it’s time to leverage each. 

I am SERIOUSLY independent. Like, could quite happily disappear on a plane and travel the world solo. I’ll also single handedly take on a big idea with a high level of belief and push that thing through until it comes to life. 
Great skills for running a business and getting things done in general, but also not the best when you hit a spot where, surprise surprise, turns out you DON’T actually have the insight into what tools you need to go further 😜

Sure, you could keep pushing and I have no doubt you’ll find a way, come hell or high water. But what I’ve learnt is that there is a better use of my strength than simply bulldozing something through. 

Find people who know what you don’t know. Who’ve walked the path ahead of you. 
Surround yourself with the kind of friends who love you in spite of yourself and still call out and believe in the best in you.

***** If you want to ditch normal, you get to work to your strengths and be supported in your weaknesses ***** 

Did you know that MOST people just go plodding their way through life never giving a blink to the idea of breaking free, until life comes along and slaps them with some situation they can’t ignore??

See, the fact that you FEEL all these things like you do, that you analyse them and wonder what they mean, that sets you apart. 

🔥 YOU get to go first 🔥

You’re a leader. One of the ones called to go out into the unconventional and NOT NORMAL parts of life. 

So you get to go THROUGH this metamorphosis out of normal, before everyone else. 🦋

People will not like it. 
They will talk behind your back. 
Say you’re too this or that. 
Because you are CHANGING. 

And honey I KNOW that hurts. 
People who are not really your people, who have no insight into WHY you do what you do, they will say things. 

Welcome to the club. 
👑 It just means you’re in the right place 👑

You’ve joined the exclusive group of brave ones who are willing to risk the discomfort, willing to not be popular or picked first, willing to grow and expand. 

Which by the way is SUCH a gift. You are making space for others to come through. You are a carving a path. 

So, want to ditch normal ❓❓❓

**** Acknowledge the agitation and choose intention.
**** Take another look and see what’s reflecting back. 
**** Work to your strengths and get support in your weaknesses. 

Aaaaand, speaking of which. 
>> Get your beautiful weird, not normal self into my FREE 5 day challenge! <<

Drop a comment below so I know to send you ALL the details for when it starts this coming week. 

I’m gonna help you figure out how you can ditch normal and design the life and business you’re dreaming of.


What Do You Deeply Desire?


You’re allowed to feel the tear of it. The push and pull of normal. It’s a sacred space to be lost and found in growth. 

I see you there, driven one, trying so hard to do all the things and have all the things and be all the things. 
You’ve got it all and still... 

Life’s been throwing you a little bit lately hasn’t it. 
Things popping up you thought were dealt with. 
Oh yeah, you get to go through those things again. 

When you were younger it was ok to drown it in some blue sambuca at Bruno’s bar up the road. 
You didn’t know it would look like this one day. 
Didn’t know how much what you chose in those days would matter. 

Then you got a bit older. Covered it up with that nice girl/ tough girl/ smart girl/ rich girl image you picked and did all the things you were supposed to do. 
Nice job, car, kids. So safe. Well done you. 

And here you are. At a crossroads. 
Staring down the barrel of normal. 

Here you are. Facing it again. 
Would be nice to run away wouldn’t it?
Give in to the feelings. Disappear for a while and pretend life was something other than it is. 

Here you are. Perched on the edge. 
The edge of normal. 

What do you deeply desire?
Really, when you look at who you want to be. 

This is your ONE life. 

What when you look back on it, what will make you feel like you’ve done what you were supposed to do?
What does that version of you that you’re becoming know about THIS feeling, right here and right now? 

Because you always have choices. New opportunities to choose again. 

And those choices, You get to feel them. 
To move through it. 
To be honest about it. 

To work through the paradigms and stories that you’ve told yourself. 
To be vulnerable and open with the truth and trust that in sharing it, you will still know love. 
From others sure, but more importantly from yourself. 

You get to come home to yourself again. 
This will not break you. 
It will bring you back. 

As difficult as it feels to own what’s going on right now it will only shape you. 
Go deep. 
Dig in. 
Grow more. 
BE more. 

Because success is not what’s on the outside alone. 
It’s an INSIDE game. 

Ask yourself this - What are the non negotiable parts of your life? 
The things that must remain. Question everything and come back to your truth. 

And where are the spaces you can stretch out into?
Where can you take the risks, make the changes, BE the person?.

So go do that. 
Your heart will feel like it’s breaking a little, and that is how you know you’ve really lived. 

You felt it. You didn’t push it down or cover it up this time.
You let it crack you open. You faced it and you grew. 

It’s a holy thing to be wild and free. 

Let's Talk About How You're Going To Get There

You can make the money and give the money and be the girl. 

/ THE girl who doesn’t care what everyone thinks anymore and chases her dream. 
/ THE girl who builds a business that changes peoples lives. 
/ THE girl who loves deeper than she thought was possible. 
/ THE girl who comes HOME to herself. 
(Or guy perhaps in your case gentlemen 😉)

I know because I’ve become it and I lead my clients into it. 

Honestly, I’ve been hustling this last month (which I love btw) but also having to remind myself to honour what my body and soul need's to maintain this level of FABULOUS!

There is SO much going on behind the scenes here that I can't share just yet but I'm SO excited for it all and yet...

>> I know the pain.

The pain of being back where I used to be.
Not knowing how the heck I was going to turn what I loved into work and money and clients. Of craving freedom. 

Thing is, now I've got clients who are ditching normal after we work together and I am SO amped for what they're creating as they do. 
Their DREAM lives and businesses.

Driven big thinkers taking those ideas they've had for years down off the shelf and dusting them off.
Together we are bringing big things to life.

> Finally seeing how their desires to have a business that helps people and still take a day a week or more off to spend doing things they love is possible.

**insert whoops of joy as they take days to ride horses, have coffee with their gals, play golf, do more yoga and take weekend getaways. 

> Breaking open new areas of their businesses and entire new pools of clients who are ready to buy from them, because they’ve figured out WHO and HOW they really help for real this time. 

And it feels SO damn good to know they’re doing what they were BORN to do. 

> Making plans to finally leave their regular jobs after YEARS of struggle.

**goodbye awkward convo’s with colleagues who just don’t get you and your dreams for MORE. 

> More time with their kids cause they're putting support systems in place for their business - finally.

> Less hustle but more actual work being done and money coming in. Always welcome!

But do you know my favourite thing?

💕 They are coming home to themselves.

Dropping the worry about the shoulds and have to's.

Owning who they are and confidently stepping into their dreams.

They are coming in ready to do the work. Sick of their own excuses.

They're turning all their drivenness into money, impact and freedom > In a way they LOVE.

So, I’m saying all this is to inspire you that YOU TOO can move past the pain of normal.

And also to issue a quick PSA about a price shift. 
I want to serve my 1:1 client to the best of my ability and to do that I need to not be spread quite as thin as I have been.

If you want to work 1:1 with me, lock it in now cause I'm going to a new level of owning the work I do and charging accordingly in May.

If you're ready to leave the soul sucking pain of normal behind, I'm here for your growth.
I love your drive and dreams to be more. Let's talk about how you're going to get there.


Sometimes We All Need Someone To Walk Along Side Us


Example > I don’t vibe with the label of coach. I just don't.

Some people do and that’s fine for them, but let’s be honest, it’s an unregulated industry. ANYBODY can say they’re a coach right now. 
AND YET, I have hired and will continue to hire coaches, to the tune of many thousands of dollars and I don’t regret it.

In many way's I operate as one myself when I help people with designing their lives and businesses, but I just don’t love the word right now.

>> Kind of in the same way I don’t like the word christian.

Like, yes, that’s the foundation of my childhood faith and my spirituality but there’s so many lame ones out there who don’t walk their talk that have given it a bad name. 
Myself and many others I know have come up against the idea of ‘church’ and found it lacking.

Yet I find myself walking through the doors.
Sucker for punishment maybe?

Or maybe it’s not about the label. 
Maybe it’s about what’s in ME and what's in YOU.

YOU get to take responsibility for what you need and how you’re gonna get it. 
And you’ve been given a BRAIN to use in your pursuit of what you need and believe.

So use it wisely. Make solid choices. Don’t just go along with the say so.

Don’t just take what you’re given and slurp it down like a baby on milk. 
Get some teeth. Work your jaw out. Find the food you need to sustain your soul.

If you are not happy with a label, or your life, or a relationship, DO the work!
The work of creating something better.

Do the work to find people who can help move you forward and restore your belief in the goodness of life. 
People who can motivate you and provoke you in the right way.

I think the biggest thing I’ve learnt about getting a coach or a business mentor or a therapist is that I’m not looking for someone to do the work for me.

I accept that it is work that I get to do, and yes, I could google the information or apply myself to study it and get by without one. 
Plenty of times when I’ve just grit my teeth and done the hard yards by myself.

But what I’m looking for is someone who has the experience, the skills, the energy and the drive to help me come back home to myself and what I know to be real.

We need different people for different things at different times of our life. 
Sometimes we don’t need anyone at all.

Sometimes we all need someone to walk along side us.
To call us on our blindspots. To ask us the hard questions. 
To inspire us to go higher.

Maybe you can get that from a friend or dr google. Good for you. 
But maybe you want a human who’s done what you want to do. 
Ditched normal in pursuit of running businesses and having a life that she loves. 
👍In which case, hit me up.

I may or may not ‘coach’ you, but I sure as heck will provoke you to think bigger. 
Challenge you to leave all the regular, should’s and have to’s behind. 
Motivate you to be more YOU than you’ve ever been before. 
Help you map a path forward into the life and business you’re dreaming of.


It’s Your Time

I don’t know what possessed Evan to take this photo. 
This photo makes my heart hurt. 

She’s not yet 2. He’s around 5 months old. I’m 27. And I’m done. 

This moment hurts like nothing else hurts.

This is not a tired mum in this picture.  
This is a mum who’s battling chronic physical pain, day in and out. 
Who’s depressed and fights back suicidal thoughts most days. 
Who feels like a burden. 
Who has lost purpose and feels like she’s missed her calling. 


I look back and this still cuts in my heart. 
Even though life looks and feels a whole lot different now, this one hurts.
Because I still remember that grief. 
The grief that life was not stacking up how I thought. 
That I lost years to something outside of my control. 
That I was less than, as a mother and wife and woman in general. 


We can philosophise and say that there was learning in the pain. That my greatest gifts came from that time. 
All true. 
I would not be who I am without this time and I'm so full of gratitude for that. 

But in the middle of those dark nights you don’t care about the gifts. 
You just want OUT. 

Count it all joy when you face trials.. yeah, not so much. 

I got through many many days by the clinging to life with my fingernails, which were not nearly as tidy and manicured as they are these days. 
They were chipped and weak, literally and figuratively. 

>> So why am I even sharing this?

Yes, because I know the other side. I know there's hope and joy and all those good things that I live in now. 

But also because we can all have this in one way or another. 
The feeling that we’ve somehow got wrapped up in a life that wasn’t quite what we were called to. 

Grief about time we’ve lost. 
The belief that we’re not enough. 
Loss of vision and hope for the bigger version of ourselves. 
Feeling like we are stuck. 

But here’s what I want you to notice about that picture. 
You see those folders on the shelf behind me?
They represent the start of my business. 

This is why I know what I know. 
Not because I have a degree in this stuff but because I’ve lived through the fire.  
I’ve started things in spite of myself. 
I know it's possible for you. 

I know that in all your lack and your worry about feeling not enough,
your low key anxiety about what people will think of you,

there’s still the wild in you that says - I am not done here. 
That whispers - look out world, I’m coming for ya.
The longing to live by design, not by default. 

There is a coming home to yourself that is about to happen, 
As you step outside of what you know right now and fall forward into the future. 

You will begin to run. 
To pick up your soul and take flight. 

It’s your time. 


Do One Thing Different Today And Change The Pattern Of ‘Stuck'

UNIVERSITY WON’T SAVE YOU... and other things I'll teach my kids. 

I’m on the irregular side of the regular fence here guys, much like I am with having a 9-5 job, vaccination, my views on church, parenting and schooling techniques and a number of other expected niceties. 

👉 and I think you know it's time for you to do a rethink on some of it too.

You hear all the noise too right? The big talk about how everyone is doing it the ‘right’ way, but I just don’t buy it. 

Not to say I don’t think there’s a benefit in all those things, but I don’t intend on just playing the straight line with them 

This is what I mean when I say that University won’t save you. 
It can be of great benefit but I see a bunch of people getting tied up with $50-$100K of debt and they’re no closer to living out their passion or purpose. 

ANYTHING without intention and consideration is a big fat waste of time. 

Here’s what I will be telling my kids. 

👉 DON’T go to university, unless you KNOW what you’re passionate about and what you think you want to do with your life. 

👉 DON’T vaccinate your kids, until you’ve read about the protocols around it and how it works. 

👉 DON’T go to church if you’re gonna sit there and pay lip service to something. Mean it in your heart if you’re gonna do it. 

👉 DON’T send your kids to regular school if you’re not happy with the options available. Always look for alternatives if you feel uneasy. 

Then and only then, DO!!. 

🔥 DO out of intention. 
🔥 Out of passion and belief. 
🔥 Out of trust and exploration into the truth. 

I see people who’ve spent YEARS trapped in the things they thought they SHOULD do, only to step back and realise they don’t know why they’re doing what they do. 

It eats at their soul and suddenly they’re part way through something and feel like they’ve wasted years. 
>> Don’t do that to yourself. 

This one life. It’s small. Tiny in the scale of an eternal reality. 

Live it large. Wide awake and dreaming. 

Here’s my challenge. If you find yourself stuck in something that you have no heart for.
DON’T stay stuck there. DO one thing different today. 

It might not be time for you to quit your job or leave uni or pull your kids out of school, but you can still START. 
Start by considering what it is you’re doing. 

Examine your motives. 
Investigate what you want your life to look like so you actually know what you’re heading towards. 

Then simply do ONE THING DIFFERENT today and change the pattern of ‘stuck’. 
Commit to living differently and letting your soul find the way home.


Find A Way That Works For You 

>> You can run and try to fix yourself, to get yourself looking all professional and clever but if you don’t let who you are find a home in you people will see right through you. 

I just wish I could go back and tell my 20yr old self some truths about this. 👆

It’s been a sprint and pause kind of month. 

Who am I kidding, I have a sprint and pause kind of LIFE!!

Learning to embrace this about who I am and how I work has been one of the most valuable things I’ve learnt about myself. 

Learning that it’s your passion and energy that will create mighty things, but it will crush you if you don’t learn the value of the pause. 

Back then I spent a lot of years working for a big church and non profit and there were things on EVERY night. 

I mean EVERY night. 

Which is fine. I think it’s great that they do so many excellent things. 

But the HUSTLE of that time of my life was endless, because I didn’t know how to draw the lines for myself. 

It would take some pretty serious illness for me to not show up at something I was supposed to be helping with. 

I went to an event when I had a 6 day old baby for goodness sake!!

That wasn’t their fault. It was mine. 

I didn’t want to be seen to slack off, to not be committed, to not get it right. 

I found my value in doing and struggled with BEING. 

Struggled with BEING because I didn’t know WHO I was supposed to be BEING! 🙄

It’s easy to find reasons why you need to hustle. To cover up, to distract yourself, to keep up appearances. 

There’s also plenty of inspiration these days to take it slow, which frankly sometimes I think people use to avoid doing the REAL soul work they know is theirs to do, but they’re running from it. 

The real living is between the two. 

In beautiful alignment.
Resting between truth and grace. 

Knowing yourself, knowing what you require and allowing space for each. 

Quit worrying about the hustle gurus. The zen gurus. 

Find a way that works for YOU. 

The way that’s perfectly aligned for your call. 
Then go do that!


To The Money, Freedom And Impact You're Dreaming Of


🔥 Collaboration ya'll. It's the real deal!

I can't even sell you on it cause we've closed the doors but I'm too excited not to share because I want you to see what is possible!!

My biz bestie and I have been cooking up a treat for the women in our various groups and I am amazed at how much we complement each other's strengths. 

This week, well it's been a double for your trouble, divine abundance kind of thing going on. We are both playing to our strengths and the deep soulful knowing I always talk about and boy does it show. 

We initially aimed to take in just 50 women to our new membership and the applications came in so thick and fast that over the course of the last week we've welcomed over 500 women into our new platform!

I literally have not had time to think about sharing this here on my own page cause I've been so loving working with Natalya Amanda Purchase and bringing this baby to life. 

Two days till actual launch and we are putting the finishing touches on a health and mindset membership that is set to blow the boots of those stodgy old 'diet' systems and help women break free from the chains of comparison, self loathing and constant yo-yo'ing. 

This platform is about soul work that turns into body work. 
It's mindset work that turns into movement. 🙌

It's what I wish I'd had as love and support around me as I battled through my own body images issues and years of binge and purge style disordered eating. 

It's what Natalya knows works for herself and the women she serves to get fit and free and is an overflow of the amazing work that's already happening.

🙌 It does all the things I talk to my clients about. 
- Meets a need or desire, solves a problem
- HELPS people. 

🙌 We have used the same process I talk to my 1:1 clients about.
- Check in with your soul, Is this work you want to spend your time on?
- Check in with your market, Do they really want this?

Guys I don't just talk about getting started. 
>> THIS is what what I can't help but DO. 
It's the work that MUST come out of me. 

I help people get started. 
I help them unlock the destiny they know is theirs for the taking. Soulfully and practically. 

So when I tell you that I have 1:1 spots available and I can help coach you through getting something started, you need to know... 

I didn't go to some coaching school and get a bit of paper that certifies me to coach you.
Heck I didn't even finish university cause I hated it so much!!

I don't coach or mentor you with some one size fits all system. 
🔥 If you're up for it, I help you unlock what's already IN you and we work out the best way for you to get there. 

>> To the money, freedom and impact you're dreaming of. 

Prices officially going up next month so message me to get yourself a booking now while you still can. 

This girl is busaaaay!!