Noticing Pleasure

A non-sexual practice for connection and healing your foundations.

Take a breath. Feel the weight of your body, your feet on the ground, the air moving in and out.
Let yourself be in the moment, aware of yourself and the space around you.

Now, gently bring your attention to what feels good. This doesn’t have to be big or dramatic. It could be the warmth of your cup of tea, the softness of fabric against your skin, the sound of laughter, the smell of fresh air.

Pause with one of these moments.
Stay with it just long enough to notice how your body responds.
Does your chest open? Do you feel warmth, tingling, expansion, ease? Does your breath change?

Write or simply reflect:

• What feels good right now?
• Where do I feel it in my body?

If you’ve come from purity culture, you might notice that even the idea of “feeling good” can bring hesitation or self-judgment. That’s okay. This is where we begin rebuilding the foundation.

Each time you notice something that feels good, you’re quietly challenging one of purity culture’s core beliefs - that pleasure is dangerous or untrustworthy. You’re teaching your body that safety and goodness can coexist.

As you move through your day, let yourself be curious about the small sparks of aliveness you notice — the way sunlight falls on the floor, the taste of your food, the moment of connection with someone you love.
Each time you notice, pause just for a breath, and let yourself register it fully.

At the end of the day, ask:

• What moments made me feel alive today?
• What did my body tell me about those experiences?

Close by offering gratitude to your body for speaking, and to yourself for listening.

This is where healing begins, not by trying to fix desire or performance, but by building safety and trust from the ground up.