You're not broken. You're still untangling messages which, instead of helping, have been seriously harming your relationship and how you feel about sex.
If these feel like you, you're in the right place:
- “Sex feels like a chore, not something I actually want to do.”
- “I feel guilty for not wanting it.”
- “I grew up being told my body was… dangerous.”
- “It feels like it’s more about their needs than mine.”
- “When he's in the mood, I look for excuses”
- “I was told ‘good girls don’t think about sex.’”
You’re not alone — and you’re not broken. You deserve to want and enjoy sex. Read on to find out how.
Were you taught how to enjoy sex — or just how to avoid it?
'Purity culture' promotes the idea that sex should be avoided until marriage, after which it’s magically supposed to feel effortless and fulfilling.
Those religous teachings had you believing that sex is dangerous, shameful, or only acceptable under specific conditions, usually after marriage. Messages like “Don’t have sex,” “Cover up,” or “Good girls don’t think about those things” might have sounded like wisdom at the time… but they don’t just disappear.
But beliefs like that don’t just disappear.
They take root. They shape your nervous system, your sense of self, and your expectations of intimacy. So later — when you're married, when you want to enjoy sex — they can show up in ways you never expected. Shame in the bedroom. Guilt for wanting. A mind that freezes, even with someone you love.
Even in a safe, loving relationship, those early messages can quietly linger — creating tension, disconnection, or a nagging sense that something's wrong with you.
You’re Not Alone
I’ve worked with so many people who feel stuck, ashamed for not wanting sex, unsure how to enjoy it, and worn down by the pressure to “fix” it.
But you’re not broken. You were just never taught how desire really works, especially after purity culture. That’s why I created 'How to Want & Enjoy Sex (without feeling pressure)' — a practical, self-paced course filled with my best tools, insights, and partner-friendly exercises to help you feel more connected, confident, and free.
Inside, we’ll:
- Unpack the purity culture beliefs that taught you to feel guilt about sex.
- Explore how those beliefs still shape desire, pleasure and confidence now.
- Work through the most common challenges people face when sex feels like a chore.
- Use practical, body-based tools to help you want and enjoy sex again.
- Replace obligation with safety, agency, and pleasure.
Here's exactly what you'll get:
10 powerful audio trainings designed to fit into your life — whether you’re commuting, walking, or winding down at night. No awkward videos, no complicated exercises — just real, actionable insights to help you create lasting change.
You'll also get bonus worksheets and guided exercises — perfect for starting real conversations, rebuilding connection, and practising what you learn together.
Module 1 – Welcome
Start with everything you need to know and how to get the most from this experience (plus how to get extra support if you need it).
Module 2 – The Beliefs That Drive Desire
Discover the two most common stories I see in clients — and learn the Pyramid Theory, a simple but powerful way to understand what’s really driving (or blocking) your desire.
Module 3 – Challenges and Solutions
I talk through the most common challenges, and give practical ways you can work through them. Challenges like:
- “It’s hard to even get started.”
- “It doesn’t feel good for me.”
- “We need different things to feel close.”
- “It hurts.”
- “I’m always overwhelmed and touched out.”
- “I wish sex was initiated differently.”
Each challenge comes with compassionate guidance and actionable strategies.
Module 4 – Closing Thoughts
A gentle wrap-up with the most important takeaways and next steps.
PLUS Bonus Resources!
You’ll get TEN game-changing resources to help you apply what you learn and start seeing real results, including: conversation starters, worksheets, the erogenous zone 'cheat sheet' and calming meditations.
💡 This isn’t just about sex—it’s about confidence, connection, and learning to actually want intimacy, without guilt or obligation.
Find freedom like these amazing clients of mine!
Judgment‑free. Pressure‑free. Shame‑free.
This course is a gentle, grounded space to explore your relationship with desire — whether you’re a currently a christian, questioning parts of your past, or you're done with church and faith spaces.
And it’s risk-free for 7 days.
If you listen to the course and give it a genuine try, but don’t find it helpful, I’ll refund you 100% — no pressure, no awkward questions.
Feel Safe, Seen & Turned On
💬 Your Questions, Answered
I’ve already tried to fix this—what’s different about this course?
This course doesn’t just throw solutions at the surface. It goes deeper—helping you uncover and rewrite the beliefs and emotional blocks that keep you stuck. If you've tried all the date nights, the marriage books and nothing's worked, it could be because you've never really explored the core beliefs like we do in this course.
What if I don’t have much time right now?
The lessons are bite-sized and audio-based—perfect for listening on a walk, in the car, or at home. You can move at your own pace, even if that’s five minutes a day.
Is this just for married women?
Nope. It’s for anyone who grew up in purity culture and wants to reclaim intimacy—whether you’re single, dating, or married.
I’m scared I’ll feel shame or pressure—will this course make me feel worse?
Absolutely not. This is a zero-shame space. There are no “shoulds” or pressure—just honest guidance and tools that meet you where you are.
Will it actually help if I’m the one who wants sex more?
Yes! Whether you feel that you have a higher or lower drive, this course helps you understand the deeper dynamics at play—so you can feel seen, heard, and supported.
What if this brings up big emotions for me?
That’s totally okay. You’ll be guided gently, with built-in grounding tools. You’re in control—you can pause, reflect, and take it at your own pace.
Is this therapy?
No, but it is deeply therapeutic. It offers powerful insights, mindset shifts, and practical tools that can make a real difference—without needing weekly appointments.
Can I stay anonymous?
100%. Your enrollment is private—no one will know unless you choose to share it.
How long do I have access?
You get lifetime access. Go through it now—or come back when you're ready.
How soon can I start?
Right now. As soon as you join, you’ll get instant access to everything. If this is something you've been putting off, now is your moment.
